Why Abundance Eludes You

We teach people and the Universe how to treat us. If you want abundance of any kind, you MUST love yourself completely and unconditionally.

The truth is this...

You can't hold a sense of loathing and resentment toward yourself and expect others to love you as you want to be loved. You can't judge yourself as unworthy and expect the Universe to reward you with riches and joy.

I'm going to say something bold - and as this came to me to write to you, it resonated so deeply within me that I knew it had to be said...

Love yourself, accept yourself, receive yourself fully and without condition and abundance and prosperity will pour into your life.

What's the Confusion?

As soon as I wrote the words, "Love yourself, accept yourself, receive yourself fully and without condition and abundance and prosperity will pour into your life", I could feel confusion and outrage wanting to come to the surface.

Why? What's the confusion?

And then it dawned on me - the truth of the statement is confused by what we were taught (or thing we were taught) early on in life. Let me explain...

It is easy to confuse what we feel we seek from our parents, loved ones, bosses, strangers and friends. We feel that we are constantly striving for acceptance and love, but that isn't what it really is...

When we were born, WE fully loved and accepted OURSELVES. We didn't need our parents for that. We didn't need anyone else to tell us we were enough and worthy of great abundance, in the beginning (even if it was just for a moment) we KNEW we were enough and were worthy of great abundance.

We needed our parents for food, shelter and comfort - their love was bonus. And then something happened, a great shift took place and we began translating our need for food, shelter and comfort as a need for love and acceptance. We started to feel that the way to food, shelter and comfort was by being loveable enough. That is when the word 'enough' first entered our awareness and with it the awareness of NOT being enough. That is when we started confusing survival with love. When the stakes of love became so high that our very survival felt it depended on how loved we were, how accepted we were, how good or clever or sweet or talented we were. That is when we shifted from loving ourselves to seeking love from the outside. And that is why it never feels like it is enough.

This is just a misinterpretation. You are enough. You have always been enough. THAT is the truth. You have been miraculous since before the moment you drew your first breath.

And I want to tell you something so important - something that is the disconnect between you and everything you desire (internally and externally)...

• It is SAFE for you to disconnect the words survival and love.
• It is SAFE for you to disconnect the intertwined emotions behind survival and love.
• It is SAFE for you to disconnect the stakes between survival and love.

You ARE love - you were born that way and you were born magnificent. You were born a BRILLIANT and MASTERFUL MANIFESTOR - think about it...

When you were born, you were so good at manifesting abundance that you manifested yourself into relationships where people brought you food when you couldn't physically go out and get it yourself. You attracted people who would care for your needs - that's BRILLIANT!

The true source of everything is within you and when you accept that and love yourself you will be given limitless access to that source.

You are not here to feel small - because you aren't small - you are huge and infinite. You knew that once, and you can know and receive it again. Every moment that you move closer to complete love for yourself, you move closer to complete abundance, prosperity, joy and fulfillment.

How much you love yourself is reflected in what shows up in your external life. Now, that is another bold statement that pushes some buttons, so let me give you an example from my own life...

There was a period of my life when I lived in New York City, I was barely surviving - I lived off of stale bread and old mayonnaise for a while. And in my angry moments - back then - if you had told me that how much I love myself was reflected in what was showing up in my life, I would have been beyond angry - I would have been insulted - I would have told you how it wasn't my fault, I would have yelled and screamed and stomped my feet.

BUT here's the truth, I loved myself only enough to allow stale bread and old mayonnaise to show up in my life. It's true - I had stale bread love for myself.

And that's okay - it was part of my journey back to love - it was part of my journey back to complete self-acceptance - it was part of the journey that I am still on. And now I can love myself for that time in my life. Can you? Can you look lovingly at when you forgot to love yourself? Can you look lovingly at you and how intertwined survival and love became? Can you love you? I know you can - how do I know?

Because - you were born that way.

Even if it was for a glimpse of a moment, you loved yourself wholly, completely and unconditionally - and that glimpse of a moment of abundant love is the light to lead you home.

Life Mastery is Yours!

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